2016年3月29日 星期二

@ 2016-哈佛大學推薦20個讓生活快樂的習慣培養




Namaste dear yogi們


Dada看見了一篇美妙的文章,將它翻譯出來。

希望在這個短暫的人生,隨時都會消逝的生命裡,

多一些活在當下的喜悅習慣。


憤怒不是排解悲傷的方式,
變得正面而樂觀方能走長遠的路。

分享給各位


OM OM OM


1.感激。


慢下來,看看你的周圍,並注意在你的生活中的小細節 - 在人行道上紫色的小花,美麗的夕陽,那洗去你一天的熱水淋浴,看見伴侶眼裡的微笑...


當你有一顆感恩的心來理解生命的美麗,神奇和福佑,你會自發的洋溢著幸福。


2.明智地選擇你的朋友。


據哈佛,影響個人幸福的最重要的外部因素是人與人之間的關係。所以,如果你想快樂,選擇周圍誰是樂觀的人,誰欣賞你,誰接受你原來的個性,誰可以讓你的生活更豐富,更充滿,更有趣,更有意義。



3.培養同情心。

當我們能從另一個的角度來看相同得事情,我們更容易處理與同情對方,在客觀性和有效性的情況下。將會有更少的矛盾和更多的快樂。


4.繼續學習。


學習使我們的年輕、夢想讓我們活著。當我們將大腦充分運轉,我們就不太可能糾纏於不愉快的想法並更容易感到快樂和滿足。


5.成為問題的解決者


快樂的人更容易解決問題。當他們遇到人生的挑戰,他們不自己打敗自己,不會陷入抑鬱狀態。相反的,他們面對挑戰,引導他們的精力朝著解決辦法的路走。經由解決問題成為問題的解決者,你會建立你的自信,當你下定決心便會堅定朝它實現,你將有能力用自己的方式挑戰生命。


6.做你渴望實現的事。


既然我們花了我們的成年生活工作的三分之一,愛我們做什麼,對我們的整體幸福感產生巨大的影響。如果這是不可能的那一刻,然後嘗試找到你目前的工作樂趣和意義,或者培養一種愛好,涉及做你喜歡的事情。


7.活在當下。


當你感到沮喪,你活在過去。當你感到擔心或焦慮,你生活在未來。但是,當你感到滿足,歡樂,祥和的,你活在當下。


8.保持笑容。


笑是憤怒或抑鬱症最強大的力量。研究表示,彎曲你的嘴角的簡單的動作可以增加你的幸福感。所以生活不要太嚴肅。試著在掙扎的生活中培養幽默和笑聲。


9.練習寬恕。


不滿和憤怒是自我的懲罰形式。當你選擇原諒,你便善待了自己。而最重要的是,學會原諒自己。每個人都會犯錯。經由我們的錯誤讓我們學習和成長,成為一個更更好的人。


10.常說感謝


永遠感激生活中的每一件美好事物。當然,相同的對那些在生活中給予你大大小小的好的人表達感謝一樣重要。


11.創建更深厚的關係。


當我們與另一個人有更深層次的連接讓我們的幸福感倍增。全心投入和傾聽是兩個最重要重點,它可讓兩人關係更緊密,雙方皆感覺到快樂。。


12.遵守協訂。


我們的自尊是建立在我們與自己達成的協議。而有著高自尊的人通常比較快樂,這直接關係到幸福。因此,保持你自己他人的協定。



13.打坐靜思。


據哈佛大學研究,拿了8堂冥想訓練的人,比對平均照組更快樂20%。這樣的訓練可以導致大腦結構的變化,包括增加灰質密度與海馬迴,增加學習和重要記憶,並增強與自我意識,慈悲和自省相關的結構。


14.專注於當下。


當你把你的心緒,精神和靈魂,放在你當下做的事情上,你便創建一個幸福的狀態 - 它稱為“流”。當你住在流裡,你就不太可能去關心別人如何看你,以及不會被一些不太重要的事情困擾。結果呢?你就創造了更多的幸福,當然!


15.持樂觀態度。


對於幸福的人來說,他們的杯子始終是半滿的。如果您是每你面對挑戰時總想像最糟糕的情況,那麼請訓練自己扭轉這一趨勢。問問你自己這樣的情況會有什麼好處可以出來,或者可以從中學習。樂觀絕對是成功和幸福的燃料啊


16.無條件的去


沒有人是完美的。接受自己的所有缺陷。而對於其他人也這樣做。無條件地愛一個人並不意味著你需要花所有的時間和他們在一起,或幫他們找出他們的問題。無條件的愛意味著接受他們原本的面貌,並容他們去找到自己的方式,走自己的路。


17.不要放棄。


爛尾和屢戰屢敗的工作不可避免地削弱一個人的自尊。懷著清醒的腦袋去做事,看著事情通過的每一個步驟直到你成功,不要放棄。請記住,失敗是暫時的,而被擊敗是永久性的。擊敗就是當你放棄時才會發生。


18.做到最好,然後放手


每個人都有其能力極限,儘管我們努力了,辦事情並不總是變成是我們想要的樣子。所以盡可能表現到最好,然後鬆手。讓事件自然生成。當你做到最好的努力時,你便不會有遺憾了。


19.好好照顧自己。


一個健康的身體是幸福的關鍵。如果您健康狀況不佳,無論你怎麼努力都難以快樂。因此,請確保你吃得好,運動,和找時間休息。將你的身體和你的精神照顧好。


20.回報。


行善是最能感覺良好的快樂之一。據哈佛大學研究,當人們做好事,他們的大腦刺激了中樞神經,好似得到獎賞的激勵。所以別覺得驚訝有些人老是喜歡幫助別人、照顧別人,因為更關心別人的人比那些都不關心其他人更為快樂。


原文: 

Harvard University Recommended 20 Happy Habits for 2016

1. Be grateful.

Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your life - the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner's eyes...

When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life's beauty, wonder and blessings, you're automatically filled with happiness.

2. Choose your friends wisely.

According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy, choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.

3. Cultivate compassion.


When we try to step into other people's shoes and understand a situation from another's perspective, we're more likely to handle the situation with compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more happiness.

4. Keep learning.

Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains and put them toward productive uses, we're less likely to dwell on unhappy thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.

5. Become a problem solver.

Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life, they don't beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead, they face up to challenge and channel their energies toward finding a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you'll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your mind to - and whatever challenges life throws your way.

6. Do what you love.

Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.

7. Live in the present.

When you feel depressed, you're living in the past. When you feel worried or anxious, you're living in the future. But when you feel content, happy and peaceful, you're living in the present.

8. Laugh often.

Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase your feeling of happiness. So don't take life too seriously. Try to find humour and laughter in life's everyday struggles.

9. Practice forgiveness.

Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you're actually practising kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It's through our mistakes that we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.

10. Say thanks often.

Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it's equally important to express your appreciation to those who've made your life better in some way, big or small.

11. Create deeper connections.

Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to ourselves, and to others.

12. Keep your agreement.

Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we've made with ourselves. And high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your agreements with others and with yourself.

13. Meditate.

According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.

14. Focus on what you're doing.

When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you're doing, you're creating a happiness state - called the 'flow'. When you're living in the flow, you're less likely to care about what others may think of you, and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More happiness, of course!

15. Be optimistic.

For happy people, the glass is always half full. If your tendency is to imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and happiness.

16. Love unconditionally.

No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems. Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to find their own ways, at their own pace.

17. Don't give up.

Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one's self-esteem. If you've made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don't give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.

18. Do your best and then let go.

Everyone has limitations, and things don't always turn out to be what we'd like them to be - despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then let go. Let events run their course. When you've done your best, you'll have no regrets.

19. Take care of yourself.

A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it's very difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well, exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and your spirit.

20. Give back.

Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard, when people do good, their brains become active in the very same reward centre that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it's not a surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who care less about others.

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